We want to cache a lot :) How do we go about it ?

We have a lot of dependencies to our SQL databases and we have heard that caching does help a lot as we move into scaling and providing better performance.

So the question is what are some reliable software products out there that we could consider in this space ? We want to put a lot of frequently called database calls that do not change frequently into this caching layer.

Also what would be an easy way to move only those database changes into the cache as opposed to reloading or pulling it into cache every few mins or hours.

We need something smart that would just push changes to the caching layer as it happens. I guess we could build our own, but are there any good reliable products out there ? Please also mention how they play with regards to pricing 'cos that would be a determining factor as well.

Thanks